I had some uncomfortable feelings come up a few weeks ago.
I started thinking about the very long list of projects that I’ve “committed” to. Things that I have started and not finished. Business relationships that I don’t feel very strongly about. My career transition and what that’s going to mean.
The difficult character flaw that I recognized is that I’m a very enthusiastic “Yes Man” at the beginning of a project.
I’m the guy that gets other people excited and says “Yes, we can do this!” I promise people the moon and the stars. Everyone says “That’s great, let’s do it!”
I realize I don’t have the time, or the energy. Or a project is not turning out to be what I initially imagined. I start to fizzle.
Instead of admitting my error of judgement, however, I keep up the positive demeanor. I nod and say “You bet! This is going to be great!”
I can only keep up the facade for so long. Slowly, I stop becoming excited. I start dreading it. I don’t want to be a part of it anymore.
I also don’t want to have an awkward conversation with the people I “committed” to. But it has to happen, because as an executive once told me:
“Bad news doesn’t get better”
Ultimately I’ll speak to the people involved in the situation.
Going forward I need to be cautious about decision making, because I want to be a man of integrity.
I want to be a man who can deliver on his word.